Read Rain's blog some time ago and there was this post where it caught my attention (others are just a fag). The post was something on whether marriage is necessary. Reasons and points were posted up for us readers at that time to ponder upon. Few of the questions that might come up when you're reading it will be:
- Is marriage another level of commitment in a relationship and love?
- Is marriage is just like any other piece of legal paper? Once there's a glitch in the gear of relationship does the piece of paper pose any special effect?
- Why would people wanna get married?
- Does marriage proves that you relationship has reached a stable point?
In my opinion, marriage is just a process of officiating that two individuals are now generally together. Having go through this process does not put you into any new wave of love or deeper commitment. You are committed enough once you are loving and sincere to each other. What marriage does is to put you through the society legal process of acceptance. Should you do not get married and stay together for a super long term society will tend to put you into the illegal, bad category. That's societal truth especially in the East too. If not the word cohabitation (thanks to Michelle for mentioning this word earlier) would not have be created and people would not wince at hearing this word.
Also, to the both individuals who tied the knot through marriage, it might appear as useless to them from what I describe earlier above. However, somehow and somewhat this marriage does affect them. Whether a conscious thought or an unconscious thought, people who tied the know tend to commit a new extra few % into their relationship compared to before marriage. Having being brought up by the society and lived as the society, these individuals would now feel that they have been recognized 100% by their spouses and are now deserving this title. Therefore, is marriage necessary if you asked me?
The answer: In this very world we have been living for such a long time, yes we do! Also, on a personal part, I do want my special someone to be recognize as my other half rather than being my girlfriend only won't I. *wink
P.S.: I have a professor in one of my classes where he's not married due to the fact that he and his girlfriend agreed that as long as the government does not pass the law of allowing gay marriage they will not get married. However, they do have a legal paper done that shows that they are by legal together. So, does that considered a marriage?